I’m not a relationship expert, but I’ve been in a few relationships and have seen my fair share of hookups. If you are going out regularly, spend a lot of time together. And hinting at having a committed relationship without actually being in one, you are unofficially dating. This is a nice way of saying that you’re dating someone but not really in an official relationship. So how will you know if you are unofficial dating? Here are the 15 biggest signs you are unofficially dating.
To be clear, this is not the same as being exclusive. That means you’ve made a public declaration that you are in a relationship with someone. Unofficially dating is when you’re with someone and things are going so well that it’s understood that you’re together.
You are dating someone with the same signs you are in a relationship. You don’t have to be official to be in a relationship. And that’s why it’s so hard to figure out whether or not you’re dating.
I am a big fan of unofficial relationships. I think they can be awesome. But I’m also a big fan of being honest with myself, and that’s hard if you’re not sure where you stand.
Here are some common signs you are unofficially dating:
1. You Have a History Together
If you have a history together and have been friends for a long time. there’s probably something clicking between you two that makes the rest of this list irrelevant. If there’s no history and your friend is just now trying to make more of an effort with you. Then these signs will be more obvious
2. You have the same interests.
You have the same interests. You’re both on the same page when it comes to common activities that you do together. If you can talk about what you did over the weekend without breaking stride or having to ask each other questions, you’re likely in an unofficial dating relationship. The commonality of your interests is what makes this relationship work.
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3. You Communicate Openly.
You communicate openly with each other. You’re not afraid to speak your mind when it comes to talking about your feelings and what’s on your mind. It’s important to share concerns and express yourself in order to avoid any confusion or misunderstanding between the two of you.
4. You Want To Spend More Time With Each Other.
The fourth sign of you are unofficially dating is that you want to spend more time with this person than you are currently. If you find yourself wanting to hang out with this person every day when you can, or if you feel like your world would be a little less bright without this person in it, then you might be officially dating.
5. Share Intimate Details About One Another
When you’re dating someone seriously, you usually like to share your feelings and thoughts with them. But when things aren’t official yet, it’s easier to keep some things to yourself. When you’ve developed a connection with someone that’s more than just a fling, you’ll feel comfortable sharing more of your innermost thoughts and feelings about life. It’s the foundation for a solid long-term relationship.
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6. Discussing Future Together
The sixth sign that you are unofficially dating is when you start talking about your future together. This will happen naturally as you get more comfortable with each other and begin to look forward to the future rather than focusing on the present. Talking about your relationship together shows that you are thinking of the possibilities and enjoying being together so much that it makes you want the relationship to continue.
7. You Meet Each Other’s Families.
Meeting the family is one of the most significant indicators that you are dating. If you and your partner have met each other’s families, then it is safe to say that you are officially dating. You have met each other’s family members and close friends who are important to them. If they have met your family members and close friends, too, then this indicates a serious commitment between the two of you. Not only have they taken the time out of their schedule to meet your loved ones, but they also seem interested in keeping a relationship with them.
8. They Always Know What To Say To Make You Smile.
They always know what to say to make you laugh. It could be a joke they’ve told before or just a silly comment, but they can lighten your mood in an instant. And it doesn’t mean they’re entertaining all of the time or that they’re trying to entertain you all of the time. Also, it means that when you need it most, they know how to lift your spirits with something funny or spontaneous.
9. You Are Always Texting Each Other.
You are always texting each other. If your texts are longer and more frequent than they used to be, that might be a sign that you two have moved into a dating relationship. You say things like “I love talking to you” or “I can’t wait till we see each other again.” If this sounds like your conversations with someone, then maybe there’s something going on besides friendship.
10. Sharing The Same Sense Of Humor
Telling when you are officially dating is pretty easy if you know the signs to look for. When a man and woman are officially dating, they will be comfortable around each other. They will share jokes that only the two of them understand and can relate to one another on a level that no one else can.
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11. You Feel Safe Around Them.
When you are officially dating someone, you feel safe around them. You feel like you can say anything or do anything without fearing judgment from them or feeling embarrassed. They accept you for who you are, and they don’t try to change you at all. This is one of the important signs that you unofficially dating.
12. You Feel Happy and Excited.
In this stage, you give each other massages, light touches, and gentle kisses on the head or shoulder. This is a great way to show your affection for each other. You might even start to hold hands when you are with each other.
Also, in this stage, you may be feeling a lot more love and passion for the person than you did in the “just friends” stage. When you are together with the person, you will feel happy and excited. If something good happens to either one of you during the day, you might want to share it with the other person.
13. They Plan Things Together Despite Being Busy.
Jam-packed schedules don’t seem to get in the way of these two having fun together. No matter how demanding the day is, they always find the time to hang out.
14. You Have The Desire To Learn More About Them.
When you start to realize that there is something special about someone and you begin to open up and share more of yourself with them, this can be a sign that you are getting closer to being in a relationship with them. The attraction and intrigue that you have for them will grow, and you will want to know more about this personally.
15. You Get Worried.
You wonder what they are doing when you’re not around or when they don’t contact you for some time. This means that you care about the other person. If you don’t care about them at all, then the fact that they don’t contact you will not bother you much. But if you are worried about them because you like them more than just a friend, this is one sign that proves that they mean more to you than just a friend.
Final Thoughts
The fact is, if you aren’t officially together, dating isn’t the same as being in a relationship. So what are those signs? We’ve compiled a list of 15 signs you are unofficially dating, but countless others are less obvious. In the end, it comes down to one thing: where do you stand with your SO? Are you ready for an official title or not? The good news is, as difficult as these relationships can be at times, they still have the potential to evolve into something even greater.
